Keep people in your life that truly love you, motivate you, encourage you, inspire you, enhance you and make you happy. If you have people who do NONE of these, let them go.
You will find many quotes, sayings and articles that ask you to have change within yourself. Sometimes they ask you to change your perspective, your views and even your thinking and thoughts to bring the peace to mind. You find peace when you are emotionally as well as mentally calm. They try to teach you how to control your emotions and feelings. But, you feel the emotions greatly when you are surrounded by the people. The emotions and feelings are meaningless and are of no value when you are not connected to people. You will rarely feel the emotions when you are not among the people. The only feeling you will have is loneliness. You cannot bring peace and happiness without having to experience the other emotions and learning to control them will not always help. In fact, you will find that no matter how much you work hard to control your emotions they gets affected by some means. Sometimes it’s the bad timing or bad situation that affects your emotions but most of the time they are people who affects your emotions and feelings with great deal.
We live with the people around us, whether its personal life or professional life or social life we need people to have us surrounded. We need family to support us, we need friends to laugh together and we need colleagues at office to work with. Controlling your emotions for them will not help in great deal as you will find to lose your grip when you face some not so good people. At some point you will realize, some people just do not care enough for you and even they do not fear to lose you, still you hold onto them trying to change your perspective and thoughts about them. You try to change yourself for you want them in your life but at the same time bear lots of pain inside the heart. The pain that occurs when someone ignores you, doesn’t value you, don’t respect your emotions, never fulfill your expectations and don’t care for you.
Everyone meets these kinds of people in their life. You might like them or even fall in love with them too. But, when you will realize that they are doing very little or nothing to keep the relation going, it will hurt. The relation held from only one side never brings happiness or peace in your life. Changing our self or trying to change them or waiting for them to change is just a waste of time. Sometimes you have to let the people go who do not want to be there for you, who do not care for you and who are not making any efforts to be with you. Ultimately, people with whom you are spending your days decide how happy you are in your life. Instead of controlling emotions; why not to take control over people? We can decide to let go such people from our life for they do not bring any good in our life. Removing negative people from your life will definitely bring peace and happiness in your life that you were searching for. Always live in the company of people who loves you, cares for you and make efforts to be with you.